According to my meager experience in teaching, I have observed that most of the teachers prefer exercising fear in their classroom management. I can’t say that they are not promoting love, perhaps their very basis of applying ‘fear’ theory is love per se.
Teachers can’t be perfectionists. They just can’t. ‘Coz if they are, either they are fooling themselves or they are not doing their job right. Teachers prepare their lesson plans and contingency plans and prepare themselves for failures at times. Perfectionists prepare their lesson plans and expect everything goes their ways. The latter needs full cooperation from the kids and the easiest way to making the kids obedient is through punishment which spells F-E-A-R.
Love can be found in the classroom in different modes. One of them is listening to the child, but that’s almost impossible if there are 30 kids in the classroom. You’d listen to one, the others strive for attention as well, and then before you know it, the bell rings and everybody goes home without learning much academically. Ironically, the teacher who listens to every child just to show that she cares will be too busy to teach or conduct the lesson which is sort of the core of her job and that can’t be love anymore.